Chapter: The Statement of the Prophet (sallal’laahu’alayhi’wasallam)
‘Whoever is able to marry, should marry, for that will help him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.).’ And should a person marry (even if) he has no desire for marriage?
Narrated ‘Alqamah: while I was with Abdullaah, uthman met him at Mina and said, ‘O Abu Abdur-Rahmaan! I have something to say to you.’ So both of them went aside and uthmaan said, ‘O Abu Abdur-Rahmaan! Shall we marry you to a virgin who will make you remember your past days? When Abdullaah felt that he was not in need of that, he beckoned me (to join him) saying, ‘O Alqamah’ Then I heard him saying (in reply to uthmaan), ‘As you have said that, (I tell you that) the Prophet (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) once said to us, ‘O young people! Whoever among you is able to marry, should marry, and whoever is not able to marry, is recommended to observe fast as fasting will diminish his sexual power’.
Shaikh Abdul Azeez Bin Baaz (rahimahullaah) stated:
Therefore, to get marriage is the correct (thing to do) as a complete obligation upon the one who has shahwa (sexual desires) even if he is not in fear of falling to Zinaa. This is with regards to the one whose situation allows him to get married.
And in this is a (manifestation) of Uthman’s righteous moral conduct. It (shows) that the elderly person can get married as long as he has the strength for sexual relations.
And the main address (in this hadith) is directed at the young people, because in most cases they possess greater desires and are more in need of that (i.e. fulfilment of such desires)
Narrated Aisha (radiyallaahu-anhaa): I said, ‘O Allaah’s Messenger! Suppose you landed in a valley where there is a tree of which something has been eaten and then you found trees of which nothing has been eaten, of which tree would you let your camel graze?’ He said: ‘I will let my camel graze of the one of which nothing has been eaten before.’ The sub narrator added: Aisha meant that Allaah’s Messenger (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) had not married a virgin besides herself.
Imaam Abdul Azeez Bin Baaz stated:
‘In this is an encouragement to marry a virgin/virgins; for she has not been put to any trial by the people and this is more likely to (bring about) harmony between her and her husband; except when the need calls for other than that'(i.e. when a man marries other than a virgin as occurs in the story of Jaabir; who married a matron in order that she can help look after his very young sisters).end of quote
The Hadith Of Jaabir
Chapter: A Lady Should Help Her Husband In Looking After His Children
Narrated Jaabir Bin Abdullaah (radiyallaahu-anhu) my father died and left seven or nine girls and I married a matron. Allaah’s Messenger (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) said to me, ”O Jaabir! Have you married?” I said, ”Yes”. He said, ”A virgin or a matrone?” I replied, ”A matron”. He said, ”Why not a virgin, so that you might play with her and she with you, and you might amuse her and she amuse you.” I said, ”Abdullaah (my father) died and left girls, and I dislike to marry a girl like them, so I married a lady (matron) so that she may look after them” On that he said, ”May Allaah bless you,” or ”That is good”[Source: Al-Hulalul Ibreeziyyah Min At-Taleeqaat Al-baaziyyah Alaa Saheeh Al-Bukhaaree Volume 4; Hadith Number: 5077; Footnote:3] Note: It is encouraged to marry virgins, as stated by Imaam Abdul Azeez Bin Baaz (rahimahullaah). However, one should also bear in mind that the most important thing is that a man should marry a pious woman and that a woman should look to the deen of a man. Likewise, Sheikh Falaah Ismaaeel (hafidha-hullaah) encouraged the brothers and sisters with polygamy.
Chapter: The Marrying Of A Young Lady To An Elderly Man
Narrated Urwa: The Prophet (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) asked AbuBakr (radiyallaahu-anhu) for Aisha’s hand in marriage. AbuBakr said, ‘But I am your brother.’ The Prophet (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) said, ‘You are my brother in Allaah’s Religion and His Book, but she (Aisha) is lawful for me to marry’ [Hadith No:5081] Imaam Abdul Azeez Bin Baaz (rahimahullaah) said:
(So) this is evident, that brotherhood for Allaah’s Sake and friendship does not prevent (a person from marrying the daughter of his friend). What is forbidden for a brother is to marry (those) relatives forbidden for him; (such as the marriage of a man to his blood brother’s daughter etc)[Source: Al-Hulalul Ibreeziyyah Min At-Taleeqaat Al-baaziyyah Alaa Saheeh Al-Bukhaaree Volume 4; Footnote Number:1]
